Have you ever had one of those days where you just want to throw up your hands and give up? Well, mine did not start out that way but it sure took a turn for the worst. Then, I went there. That one place I knew I had better not go, but what did I do? I opened the door.
You see, I was getting disappointed with how a situation was evolving. And instead of being mindful of underlying circumstances, and putting negativity in its place, I opened the door and started letting it rule my afternoon and my reactions.
What it comes down to is this. When I or anyone else let ourselves speak or think negatively we limit what positive ourselves in so many ways. Worst of all, negativity may have such a firm grip on us that we are not even able to decern we are being held captive. But, alas, there are choices we can make to increase our awareness to our thoughts and to what comes out of our mouth. The good news is there are choices we can make to increase our awareness of negative thinking and what comes out of our mouth.
Someone I highly admire, once told me I could be completely destitute, lacking in all things worldly, but the one thing I could still choose was my attitude towards what had been thrown my way. W. Clement Stone wrote, ” There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.”
If we do not speak it and believe it, then we can not expect to see positive results in our life. Every time we open our mouth we can choose to speak negative words, or we can choose to speak positive words and be blessed. Every time we think we can choose to think negatively or positively. So, after today, I am reinforcing the importance of acting in a believe it, speak it fashion all the time, in all that we do.
So you ask, “How do I become a believe it, speak it type of person?” Well, I am glad you asked.
All you need to do to is start replacing your negative words or thoughts with positive ones. Here are some steps to make that concept a little easier to follow.
- Become aware of your words and thoughts. You can begin practicing this throughout your day. It is not as hard as it may seem. If you have never paid attention to your thoughts, begin by finding a quiet place you can sit, by yourself, and listen to what you are thinking. You may find random thoughts come and go and most of us believe that because we have a particular thought it must be correct, or we are to own it. However, this is not the case. Just because a thought has entered your mind, does not mean it is correct, or that it has any authority over other thoughts that may pop into your mind. So, in other words, just because you have a thought does not mean you have to ‘think’ it. A thought is just a thought.
- Pay attention to thoughts that make you feel bad. There will be tell-tail signs of emotions attached to these thoughts, for example, anxiety, anger, fear, worry, envy. For instance, think about the subject of conflict. How does that make you feel? Angry or worried? Concerned or fearful? What additional thought come to mind?
- Choose positive thoughts over negative ones. Simply choose thoughts that make you feel good. You are only capable of thinking one thought at a time. So, think positive thoughts and soon the negative will not be able to thrive. If you find it difficult to think of particular areas in a positive way, then try to think of something that makes you feel good until you can return to the difficult subject with a more positive thought.
The key to success is to repeat this pattern as often as possible. Start with something small, yet simple and conquer that first. Then move onto something larger until you are comfortable with how you are doing. Consistent practice is needed as negative thoughts and words can have a tight hold on our behavior. So don’t give in. Be patient, yet persistent and you will begin to see the fruits of your labors.